Have you ever had any neighbours that died?

yellowtangerine

yellowtangerine

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wow. it's kinda weird, a month ago or so, our neighbour died. It was weird, cause we had noooo idea. They were a really old married couple. We noticed like, a lot of people gathering at their house for a whole weekend (and they had balloons and stuff??!) so we figured it was a birthday party. (but we were like WTF when a lady came and picked up some clothes!!) then the weekend was over and one of the days there were 13 cars there!

so we asked around and we found out that the wife HAD died. She had been ill. I think she died at the hospital, though. It's just soo bizarre, cause... I only know their last names. (well now i know their first names, as i read in the paper that she had passed, and it said their names of course) and ... omg i've never even SEEN here. I've lived here 8 years and they live RIGHT next to us. O_O;;

and they've lived there like .. nearly 30 years, i believe! my grandparents lived where we live now, so my dad and my mom were here when they started building that house. I've never actually seen the husband either. I've seen him move about outside and stuff, but i've never greeted him/seen his face.
(my mom has never seen her either!)

it was sad though, to see him move around after the funeral. I couldn't tell that he had lost his wife, but just knowing was so sad. Especially on 17th of May (our national day) cause apparently he and his wife always went to their cottage and raked leaves...and he had gone to rake leaves alone, and I saw him return home.. aww it really makes me sad.. and it's so weird to know that i didn't KNOW HER!! omg i feel kinda bad, you know. I wish I had taken my time to greet her if I saw her (not that i actually saw her)

anyway, have you ever had anyone in your Nhood die?
 
Man that is a sad story Hanne :(

You know you should really make an effort and say hello to the guy. He's feeling really alone right now and I know that what's sometimes equally as bad as the actual death of a close one, is the social death afterwards: by that I mean people who you normally speak to and interract with on a daily basis, suddenly cross the street to avoid talking - because it's a difficult thing for them too.

Poor guy. Raking leaves. Looking after his yard...just a basic thing they did together...and I bet with each stroke of the rake he thinks of her.
 
We had a neighbour of ours die a few months ago. Ray his name was. Ruth and Ray. In a short space of time Ruth lost a son and her hubby. Unreal. The whole street went to the funeral. What was weird was we were there anyway because my brother's partner, she'd lost her mum, Audrey. So we attended for the funeral of Audrey then immediately, in the same chapel, attended Ray's funeral.

What was even weirder was that, we live on a cul de sac and cul de sacs are weird. As it's not a throughfare, like a road or street, you all get to know everyone. Well. Too well. We get on with everyone. But there are so many issues between neighbours it's hard for me, relatively easy going, to keep up. (I'm really not being sexist here, but I think it's a female thing? They're all well-clued up!) I get back from work and my wife is like "This happened today between A and B and Z and Q were at it again...unreal...and Y is throwing a party and we're all invited...except X they're not invited...for obvious reasons..." ? ...I'm like...I'm hungry what's for dinner?
 
We actually had two neighbors die in my old neighborhood. The first was a real jerk and I think his wife, Barbara - really nice lady, is happier now that he is gone. I could tell you some stories about him.

The other guy was really nice. He was roommates (in the actual sense) with a lady who lived down the block from us. He got up one morning early to smoke a cigarette on the porch, which he often did, had a heart attack and died right in the chair on the porch and was there several hours before the woman found him. Very sad because when I walked by on previous ocassions we would always say hello and exchange pleasantries as he sat in that chair.
 
That's funny you mention that SFA, cos it so often goes that a really, really nice woman is married to a total c0ck
 
When I was a kid my landlord's wife passed away. They lived on site so they were like neighbors. But more recently I wouldn't really know when anyone dies or not. I kinda like to keep to myself. I have witnessed a few hideous, raging infernos however...
 
People are born and people die. That's normal. Those are the circumstances of life. Of course it's always sad but for some people death also means salvation.

During my civil service I was in a nursing home for the elderly. And I can tell you: I'd rather die before I become a quivering, scatterbrained old men who shi(t)s in his pants while being fed some mush which leaks out of the corners of his mouth.

It becomes tragic when people are torn out of life because of accidents or sickness. When children die before their parents die.
 
Dear oh dear...

I was watching the news earlier...some wife who was wife/carer for her husband who had Alzheimers. Horrible. Watching your loved one fade away. He was sh*tting himself, unable to dress, feed, do anything. And on top of all that, they have no idea who you are. I know it's probably far easier to say but Id rather have a contingency plan of popping a cap in my brain.

Terry Pratchett's been diagnosed with Alzheimers.
 
<span class="postlistquotedtext"><blockquote>quote:<center><hr width="100%"/></center>Art Weingartner wrote:

Dear oh dear...

I was watching the news earlier...some wife who was wife/carer for her husband who had Alzheimers. Horrible. Watching your loved one fade away. He was sh*tting himself, unable to dress, feed, do anything. And on top of all that, they have no idea who you are. I know it's probably far easier to say but Id rather have a contingency plan of popping a cap in my brain.

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That is so sad. And i just found out today that Bil Keane, the creater of the Family Circus comic, his wife passed away a couple of days ago. she had Alzheimers..so sad

http://www.kidk.com/news/national/19248564.html
 
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